How to Become a Gentle PersonPosted by Vic on Jan 19, 2011 in Personal Development, Self Improvement, Self-Help | 3 comments
How to become a gentle person? How to be a gentleman, a gentle mother, father, friend and a leader? Gentleness is one of the manifestations of a virtuous person. That is why many of us love to go along with gentle people. Ladies love a gentleman’s comfort; children love the mildness and tenderness of gentle parents; a gentle friend is always there to calm you; and a gentle leader is one that gives honor and respect.
A gentle person is one who is self-sacrificing, humble, kind, just, loving, peaceful, forgiving, joyful and understanding. He is not selfish, proud, rude, iniquitous, arrogant, violent, insecure and ignorant. This only means that he possesses not only one virtue that makes him that, but he possesses several great virtues that work us one to make him a gentle person.
Gentleness is not only seen in a man’s actions, it can also be demonstrated in his thoughts, words and intentions. This is because it lives deep within him. Once a person is gentle, he also has a gentle root and foundation. Moreover, he also bears the fruits and consequences of gentleness. These fruits include peace, harmony, joy and thankfulness.
To achieve gentleness, you need to have a great power. This must be a power that can bind a power. You need to be stronger. You must have a great strength that can manage your own strength. Furthermore, you must have a self that can control yourself, or in other word, self-control. This also means that you must become your inner self, rather than your external self.
Finding your inner self is simply finding your pure self. This is yourself when you are not yet corrupted by the negative forces that are in this world. These forces include pride, wrath, misery and insecurity. Therefore, to purify yourself and to have gentleness in your mind, heart, mouth and actions, you need to remove all those dark qualities that have contaminated your life since you were born on Earth.
Being gentle sounds simple, but so hard to do. Therefore, as I said earlier, you need to have a great power to do that. The greater power that can overcome the power that makes you rough is one that is more eternal – one that lasts longer and even forever. That power is found in your spirit. It is the spirit that comes from God, which pulls all the spiritual things you need to possess gentleness. It is the spirit that is founded by love.
Love is such a great thing. It’s hard to practice; it’s hard to be consistent. But if you want to achieve greater powers, which give you the ability to do greater things (such as being gentle), you need to practice harder in loving. This is the secret to gentleness: have all the virtues that support it, such as joy, peace, thankfulness, compassion and patience. Then bind them all with love, which connects them all together to work us one… to work in making you a truly gentle person.
Finally, we must always remember that being gentle is greater than being rough. Being self-controlled is harder than being violent. This only means that living in gentleness is a life of greater people. So if you want to be great, be gentle… and if you want to be gentle, be great.
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